“Just give yourself permission to do less.” If this idea terrifies you, then you’re either a high-achiever or a perfectionist. My guess is actually that you’re probably both. Welcome to the club, girlfriend!! Perfectionist Anonymous in the house. We’re hard-working, ambitious, and admittedly competitive. We’re competent, motivated, and…we secretly believe that our self-worth is tied…
What would happen if women dropped the invisible load of mom-ing? Say, we stopped stocking the house with toilet paper? No longer planned out the family calendar? Stopped sending the lunch money or packing the lunchboxes? I can tell you what would happen in my house. There would be a lot of nasty bums, missed…
This is part 3 in this series, “What to Do When you DON’T Love Your Work” and these are my last tips for what to do when you don’t love your job. #5 Improve communication with your boss. No one likes having hard conversations, but they’re literally required if you’re going to be happy at…
This is part 2 of 3 in this series, “What to Do When you DON’T Love Your Work” and these are my next tips for what to do when you don’t love your job. #2 Believe that possibilities are open to you. Telling yourself that you’re stuck where you are only further emphasizes that you’re…
If you’ve ever wanted to throw your phone across the room as you scroll through yet another inspirational quote on Instagram about following your passion, I hear you. That’s nice, but I have bills to pay. Maybe you went into your career path starry-eyed, sure that you were going to change the world and love…
The definition of work is to provide value for your employer and receive money in return. Why, then, is there an expectation that doctors will share their knowledge, expertise and time without compensation? Who set this precedent that doctors should be expected to present at conferences, grand rounds and other events FOR FREE? No conference…
I will say this one time: Don’t buy your female doctor friend/cousin/daughter-in-law a crockpot for Christmas. Because this really is a conversation about the invisible workload of women. We’ve come a long way, it’s true. But we have further to go. Women still do the majority of the invisible work related to family and household. …
You have to fly your flag so all us other freaks can find you. Are you asking yourself, “I don’t even know what a freak flag is???” Well, typically you first have to STOP hiding behind that cardboard cutout of what you think you should be! Think back to your childhood, what were the things…
Besides being a family med physician, mom, wife and entrepreneur, I led women outdoor retreats that I so elegantly call “Women in the Wild” after my loving spouse refused to acknowledge Women Gone Wild. Besides fun outdoor activities like hiking, kayaking, camping, I also try to empower my participants by teaching them survival skills Lucky…
When you are sitting on your home computer at 12:59am finishing up and closing charts like a beast from the days or weeks before. You are not alone. When you are internally crushed by a diagnosis or a patient encounter you just had then walk into the next room only to be passively aggressive berated…