If one takes a close look at all the “good” and “bad” that happen in the world it is possible to see that at the core there are only two factors or forces: Fear and Love. It is the interplay of these two forces that dictates how we perceive our circumstances and possibilities, how we react to all that happens in our lives, and how we engage with ourselves and the world around us.
All of the saboteurs* are rooted in fear- the fear of failure, the fear of not being liked or loved, the fear of ridicule, the fear of poverty, the fear of judgment, the fear of not mattering, and on and on until we get to the fear of death. However, the Sage perspective and the Sage powers are all rooted in love. The Sage perspective that every circumstance presents a gift or opportunity is based on love for life. The idea that life, the world, the universe is not against us, but instead is our friend and ALWAYS provides opportunities and gifts, even if not clearly obvious at first. The Sage powers of empathy, explore, innovate, navigate, and activate are also all based on love. Empathy is the unconditional love for self and others. Explore is the love of discovery. Innovate in the love of creating and finding new ways of being. Navigate is the love of purpose- of having a true north. And, activate is the love clear-headed, focused action.
At every moment of our lives we have the opportunity and capability to choose love or fear, no matter what situation we may be facing. This is true when we are in an argument with our spouse, when we are dealing with a difficult patient, when our teenager has slammed a door in our face, when a consultant is not responding as we expect, or even when we are struck by the death of a loved one. I invite you to consider what it would be like if you chose love more often. What would that look like? How would you be? What would you be given? Think about a recent situation during which you felt angry, frustrated, anxious or worried, and try to envision how that scenario could have been different if you had responded in love and not in fear. By doing this you can begin to change some of the neural pathways in your brain and increase the likelihood that next time you face a similar situation you will choose love.
*If you are reading one of my posts for the first time, I suggest you go to an older post to learn more about the Saboteurs and the Sage.